For as long as I can remember I am a highly sensitive person (HSP). Is it a blessing and a curse? Im not sure. Sometimes I think it is both. Being a HSP person, is amazing when you learn how to cope with it, but overwhelming, when out of balance. Its very much a double egded sword. Why? Because you literally feel everything. Every emotion, every subtle micro expression you pick up from others. As someone who most definitely qualifies as a Highly Sensitive person, I explore what it means to be super sensitive, and uncover the benefits and potential pitfalls of having such a trait. I love it, and sometimes hate it. But the older I grow the more I learn how to balance these traits, and focus more on myself instead of others. Its a practise.
I can honestly say I have struggled with it for most of the time, until recently I am starting to understand how to handle it properly. Its all about creating boundries and enough self-love. Why? Because HSP’s tend to care more for other people’s feelings then their own. They often start out as people pleasers, and tend to loose their identity in the proces. I can tell from my own experience that this is a process most of you who are highly sensitive need to go through. We grow up in a society where there is less room for expressing certain emotions. But being a HSP you have a trait in which you can feel most people’s emotions. You will feel the tendency to be compassionate or want to help, but you can only do that when you have created sufficient boundries. Its annoying to feel, see and perceive every micro expression and vibe around you but when more in balanced its a very beautiful gift. Here are some pro’s and con’s on being a highly sensitive person.
People who are Highly Sensitive are:
1. Often Deeply Spiritual: Sensitivity and spirituality go hand in hand. HSP is often a sign of the proces of a spiritual awakening.
2. Innovative: They are easily bored with the status quo and rather invent ideas themselves. They often are real visionairy’s.
3. Collaborative: They are eiger to collaborate and be inspired by other people who they admire.
4. Wise: They are often wise beyond their years and obtain cosmic knowlegde that comes from their core, often very close related to their intuition.
5. Conscientious: They are very aware of their behavior and are always analyzing and studying themselves. They always challenge themselves to look at things from a different perspective.
6. Reverence for nature and beauty: They have a love for nature and aesthetics, and gravitate towards calmness and understand that nature has tremendous power.
7. Intuitive: They often sense before they can rationalize it. They listen to that innervoice, that guides them through situations, often this voice becomes stronger as they grow up.
8. Sense of justice: Most of the time they can’t make sense of what is happening, as they are deeply sad by all the voilence and have a sense of justice to do something about it.
9. Compassionate, wanting to help others: One of the most common traits is the need to help other people, they often feel obligated to help others because they feel others needs very well.
10. Creative: They are very creative as they tend to think out of the box, making them excellent writers, authors, artists, teachers, designers, anything that is creatives is something a HSP adores.
11. Idealistic: Known for their values they are very idealistic, which is connected to their sense of justice. They have a vision they want to share, and they feel it is their mission to do so.
12. Emphatic: This is one of the most important traits, as they literally can feel others people’s emotions. This can be benefitial but if they don’t know how to deal with this, it can be destructive.
13. Sense of calm: They often radiate a sense of calm, attracting people that trust them easily telling them their personal stories. They know who they are in their core, and therefore feel calm.
1. Forgetting their own needs: They tend to focus so much on other people’s emotions and needs that they don’t care for their own needs, draining them from life energy if they don’t take care of this.
2. Setting Boundries: Every HSP has to go through this process of setting boundries. They often end up in the same situations over and over until they learn to say STOP, or NO and set boundries. Which is hard for them, but they need to in order to live up to their full potential instead of only helping other people.
3. Perfectionism: Because they are so highly aware of them selves, this often can make them too aware of themselves, pointing them on every possible flaw that they need to work on. They tend to think down on themselves, especially if they are raised in a environment where they couldn’t express certain emotions.
4. Searching: They are often lost in the beginning, searching for meaning. Because they get so drawn in by all the impulses, idea’s and emotions of others they tend to loose their own identity in the process, for example in relationships. It often takes a while for HSP’s to get in touch with who they really are and embrace that gift so they can actually step into their own power and help people from their own sense of self. Rather then adjusting to other people’s sense of self.
5. Feeling lonely and misunderstood: Even though they are very friendly and social they often feel very lonely, knowing that they most of the time don’t hang out with people their own age. They often think differently, and in order to not be an outcast, in the beginning they rather adapt to others keeping themselves small, then shining their true light.
6. Needing alone time: They are often so stimulated and overwhelmed in certain situations that they need time to be alone and recharge.
One of the biggest challenges of a HSP person is to figure out when emotions are theirs or are someone else, sometimes you think you are crazy for feeling something you should’nt suppose to feel. At other times it can be a HSP’s own insecurity too. The challenge is to stay true, and close to your own values and beliefs, and never underestimate your own gift. Gut feeling and intuition, and sometimes patience are important factors when it comes to dealing with sensitivity.